Wednesday, May 18, 2011

We've got the green light!

So the following post might be a little TMI but hey, we're all friends here, right? 

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(This picture is pretty borderline inappropriate so, ironically, I thought it'd be appropriate for a TMI post.)

Anyways. 
As some of you may know, I've blogged a few times about wanting a baby ever so badly. I haven't, however, talked much about the details of it all and why we aren't pregnant because, honestly, I didn't want to give it anymore air time. I wanted to make an effort to focus on gratitude for what I have, rather than dwelling on what I want. 

But, just so you can have a context for the happy news I wanna share, here's the low down on why we aren't pregnant even though we want a baby. 

No, it doesn't have anything to do with infertility. 
We weren't even to the stage of being able to actually try for a baby. 

You see, because of the nature of our work, neither of us have benefits through our jobs. Totally lame but luckily we're both really healthy so we've gotten by just fine. 

But there comes a time when a wife and a husband love each other very much and they want, more than almost anything, to bring a little cryings (code for baby) into their family. That's when health insurance is really, really handy and when not having health insurance is the worst. 

We checked into all our options. 
We didn't qualify for medicaid, even if we were pregnant. 
There weren't any adequate supplemental insurance plans for maternity. 
Individual insurance didn't cover pregnancy. 
We didn't make enough to pay for it all out-of-pocket.
It seemed nothing was available to us.

And let me just say this:
There is something very strange about a working, contributing couple not being able to start a family because of "the system." On the other hand, if we had just quit our jobs, and worked at McDonald's, we'd qualify for Medicaid and be able to have a baby whenever we wanted. 
Like I said, very strange. 

So all we could do was wait, and wait, and wait, for one of us to get benefits from our job. But nothing was happening and the waiting was driving me crazy. Teaching me patience, yes, but still driving me crazy.

And then, one Sunday, while serving in the nursery at church (interestingly enough), our prayers were answered.

Heather had felt she should tell me about the amazing financial assistance offered by IHC to people who may not qualify for other options. Her family's situation sounded very similar to our predicament and Heather had just had their second little girl and ended up paying almost nothing. Holeee crap. :)

And, just like that, the door was pushed wide open to us into the land of "trying" for a little cryings. 

I'm meeting Heather for lunch tomorrow so she can give more details on the financial assistance inside scoop. 
We're seeing a midwife on Friday. 
We're 86-ing the birth control.

We. are. ecstatic.  

56 comments:

Drea said...

YES YES YES YES!
SO excited to hear this.
Good luck, my friend!

girluntitled said...

that's so exciting! i can't imagine having financial constraints like that since in canada most pregnancies are covered by universal healthcare (which everyone qualifies for). i hope everything goes ok for you two...good luck!

che'lyssa said...

Halleluyerrr! Can't wait to see the next post that let's us know the news!! Happy "crying trying"!

We can give TMI comments on a TMI post, right? xo

Janssen said...

Hooray! Oh that is such happy news.

Bon Bon said...

Green light...Ready, set, gooooo! Insurance/healthcare can definitely be frustrating! Hope you guys get it all figured out without too many headaches! You have each other, and it'll be a grand adventure...that's all that matters! Have fun making a baby:-) hehe.

larissa said...

So exciting!!! Congratulations and best of luck with everything.

Elle and Jared said...

that's so great, Sam! heather and i are always working on beating the system together because we are in the same boat as well so let me know if you need any more help/support! i also really believe that when it's right, it's right and god will provide a way. we've seen many little miracles with the pregnancies of both of our kids.

Melissa: Write it in Lipstick said...

how exciting, what great news this is.

Emily said...

SO exciting! Best of luck! I know you will have some little darlings at the right time :)

Kari said...

Yessssss, I am so excited for you two (and soon to be three!). I really like this post. I think it just may inspire me to write a post about our journey and decision to get pregnant, since people are often surprised that this is our first baby and we've been married nearly 5 years!

Oh, and when you DO get pregnant, plan on being pregnant for 42 weeks--not 40. I'm 40 weeks and 5 days today...I WANT HIM TO COME OUT!!!

Merrick said...

Isn't it amazing how prayers are answered? Almost never in the way you hope or expect, but always the right way in the end! Such great news! Good luck with everything!!

Anonymous said...

how is that picture inappropriate? not trying to be snarky. just curious.

Katie Marie said...

That is WONDERFUL news!!! I am very excited for you!

Mrs. Biscuit said...

Oh-Em-Geeeee! Sam I'm so happy and excited for you! I've been hearing you pine for a little cryings of your own for what must have felt like an eternity to you and finally you have an answer! WOOHOO! We're definitely in a similar situation, but we don't have the finances to even pretend we'd be able to afford our own cryings after it was born, boo! So alas we'll keep waiting, but hopefully soon I'll be able to live vicariously through your joy! CONGRATS A MILLION!!!


<3 MuffinLovesBiscuit

Caitlin said...

Oh this is so exciting! So glad that you have an opportunity to make your baby dream come true. It's a common topic in our home as well - we have insurance and everything, just not ready yet! Best of luck to you, so happy for you both!

Jenni Austria Germany said...

so fascinating. i'm a new follower and this post has me hooked.

this, and your tights.

Liesl @ FabulousFashions4SensibleStyle said...

That is such wonderful news, and I am so, so happy for you both! You deserve it and I know you will be great parents one day hopefully very soon! Yippeee!!!

Liesl :)

Grace Marie said...

This makes me so happy!!!!

Lauren said...

ahh congratulations! can't wait for a Young Family in Love!

leigh said...

How cool.
Heath insurance is crazy, isn't it? My husband & I just got it for the first time this year. Thank God that we were healthy through the first year of marriage.
No little cryings for us yet, but best of luck with you great news!! :) :)
<3 leigh

Annie said...

Congrats! So exciting for you guys! I hope this is the only obstacle you come up against in trying to grow your family.
Good Luck with Heather! I hope it all works out!

:)

Kristina said...

YAAAAAYYYYYY!!!!! That is so amazing!!!! I'm super excited for you!! It's amazing how when it's time, Gods time, things just fall into place!! I'm so unbelievably excited for you!! All of my friends either recently have had babies or are pregnant - then there is us. We aren't necessarily trying but we arent ...not trying if you know what I mean. It's all up to the Big Guy upstairs and I'm totally ok with that!!!!

SUPER EXCITED FOR YOU TWO!!!

Aaron, Heather, Nora And Baby Edwards said...

Bomb diggity, I'm so happy I may have just shed a tear or two! Can't wait for our lunch date tomorrow. Let the baby making commence!

Olivia.Dee said...

this is very exciting news! It's really a sad day when you realize that you arent the sole decider in decisions like these. that you have to make sure everything is in place. But... persistence of course pays off! congratulations you two!

Christie @ A Lemon Squeezy Home said...

Just dropping by from Lauren's blog: congrats! I live in UT also, and wondered if you could tell me about the assisted IHC thing? We already have 3 kids, but have been trying for a while for our 4th and we have to pay for our health insurance individually and I just wanted more info if you wouldn't mind sharing:).

THERESA M said...

CONGRATULATIONS! I am muchos excited for you guys! I can't wait till we're ready to 86 the pill too! This is probably inappropriate, but here's to baby-making!

xxxx

mrs. autumn said...

That's so exciting, good luck!

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Abby said...

I am soo excited for you guys! I know how you guys feel. I have insurance through my parents for a couple more years... but if I were to get pregnant they would instantly cut me off. :( So no baby for us for awhile.

Diana Smith said...

I hope it all goes well!! Babies are a sure blessing and they make life wonderful

Alisha said...

Congrats on getting everything in line :) That's great news! SO happy for you two!!

xoxo

MyDearJenn said...

Such great news! I look forward to hearing more about your adventure!

Kayla said...

I just stumbled upon your blog for the first time and am thrilled to hear this great news! Good luck girl!

Karen in Progress said...

Your financial situation is identical to mine. Too much money for any help, but no insurance. I'm glad you found another option.

Kevin & Malorie said...

this is EXACTLY what me and my husband are going through. EXACTLY. I would be very interested in finding out what information you do???!

Juhee said...

oh my goodness!! congrats sam!!
soo happy for you! the lord always pulls through when you need him!

Nicole Marie said...

wohoo!! have fun "cyrings" making :)

alaina said...

i had no idea that you had such crazy insurance constraints in america...makes me thankful to be from new zealand! but Woah that is such GREAT news!!! congrats :)

I am Megan said...

Oh, I'm so glad that everything worked out in your favour! Hopefully it doesn't take too long before you have a little bun in the oven ;)

I've been quite broody the past few months, but am still unmarried, so I'm not allowed to have babies yet. And yesterday we had a family dinner and there was this one boy that couldn't behave, so I'm off the 'having-a-baby' phase at the moment. Thank goodness!

But don't let my negativity put you off. It's a sign and a gift from God that you must embrace!

Megan said...

eeeeeeeeeeeeeep so exciting!!!!

Louise said...

Thats amazing news. I am so happy for you both. Miracles do happen.
xx

Andrea said...

Wow that's crazy! I guess it all makes sense why Obama was pushing healthcare so much! Via Obamacare! And also little babies!

[re]becca said...

OMG!! good luck!! I just found out I am pregnant =] it's the best feeling ever. I'll pray for your little family :)

Mary said...

That's so exciting! Good luck, I hope you'll be posting some happy baby news sometime soon :)

Shauna said...

YAY!! Thats so exciting!

Heather @ Mrs. Southern Bride said...

So exciting! We are in a similar boat about "no benefits", so I'm loving this post!!!

Alycia (Crowley Party) said...

I am going to share this with my sister-in-law, this has been a reason why they have been postponing having a baby!

April said...

woohooo!! this makes me so happy!
have fun! ; ) ; )

(is that creepy? that is definitely creepy. Sorry.)

apurpledress said...

That's so exciting!

Nikki and Fam said...

Wowza, Sam! That is amazing! Expect a few months to get your body's cycle on track after the pill... and enjoy the practice!!

Can't wait to hear updates!

Heather said...

Hey! Thanks for the comment. I don't get many of those. lol You love MY blog? HA! YOUR blog puts mine to shame.
I know exactly what you mean about my fur baby. I never put her down. She's all pitiful atm because she just had "the big surgery" :(
It's really cool that we're going through the babymaking thing together. I wish you all the luck. :)

The Mister and The Missus said...

Good luck! I'll bet that's the best feeling!! Congrats :)

Megan said...

Um wow, Sami! You've got 51 love notes already. You sure are loved. Best of luck to you.

Elizabeth said...

Awe-some! Take some zinc!

Maria said...

Yay yay yay! Congratulations!

Lindsay Ann said...

soo exciting! congratulations and good luck :)

Ashley Sloan said...

Hey Thanks for following my blog- yours is a-dora-ble!!! I will be following...now! And Congrats girl! Yay! Don't you love it when you are able to get some kind of insurance or at least have a good lead? I am SO confused about the health insurance world haha. If you have any tips or leads into health insurance for maternity/babies let me know...I am going to start looking into that sometime soon just so I can have something before...yeah. (Um, maybe email me...if you can :) Like maybe not a comment on a post)

Ashley Sloan