Saturday, September 24, 2011

misunderstanding

This morning, I logged onto my site tracker. It showed a few hits coming from a particular website I'd never seen before so I clicked over. I soon had this sinking feeling that this wasn't going to be good. But I kept clicking and eventually found the source of where the visits to my blog were coming from. 

I should have listened to myself. 
I shouldn't have read it. 

I had heard of people being hateful towards blogs/bloggers but hadn't experience it for myself. 

Now I've experienced it. 

I actually found myself really questioning this blog for the first time and what it's all about. 
So, in an effort to remind myself, I feel like I need to get some thoughts down to help me process and get past the ugliness. 

...

I've had a blog for years now. 
When I was married to my first husband, I had a blog.
When I was going through my divorce and single again, I had a blog.
Now I have this blog. 

Blogging has been a positive experience for me in many, many ways. 
I've written more about the reasons why I blog here

One thing that I've always tried to uphold in my blogging is honesty. 
So when I write about how wonderfully happy my life is with my husband, that's because it's the truth. That's not to say that things are perfect. Only that things are very happy. After going through a horrible divorce, happiness in a marriage is something that I firmly believe should be honored and celebrated. That's what I've been doing from Day 1 on this blog. Writing posts about enjoying a happy, healthy marriage helps me to focus on gratitude and appreciation. I never want to take my marriage or Chas' goodness for granted.  

Along with the love and silliness that goes on around here, I also feel like it's important for me to write about ways I'm striving to become a better human.  

Getting divorced taught me important lessons.  
Earning a Master's degree taught me important lessons. 
Being an art therapist teaches me important lessons. 
Being a college professor teaches me important lessons. 
Trying to be a good partner in marriage teaches me important lessons. 

I write about these things because it helps to solidify those lessons in my mind and heart. 

And the Young People Style posts? 
I'm the first person to make fun of us for doing those. They are pretty crazy and super cheesy. 
But they're also pretty fun to do together. 
We're weird.
So whatever. 

...I was going to write more but I think I'll wrap up here. 

I guess at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what other people think. 
I didn't start this blog for other people.

We all learn from experience.
If you haven't experienced something, I can see how it'd be easy to misunderstand someone with a different life experience and paradigm. 
So I don't need to fault others for misunderstanding me, my blog, or my marriage. 
I can let others hold their own opinions whether those opinions are positive, negative, or somewhere in between.

Those opinions don't have to affect me unless I chose to let them. 
And I'm not going to do that. 

103 comments:

CaseyWiegand said...
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mama marchand said...

First, I'm sorry that you've experienced blog-world negativity and (dare I say it?) drama. :( There's nothing worse than wearing your heart on your sleeve, opening up about your family, and then discovering that someone has bashed it or spoken detrimentally about it. I've been there and it's TOUGH.

I just want you to know what an encouragement your blog is. The fun, the serious, the silly, the "weird" ... I love it all. People who take the time to criticize others are either jealous, unhappy, or don't have anything useful to do with their time.

So, try not to let it bother you. :) There are FAR more people that love you, your blog, and your awesomeness than there are people who don't. And we're the ones who matter. ;) *hugs*

Lauren said...

We get rude anonymous comments on our site all the time.I've learned to just pity the people who have so much pent up negativity in their lives that they have to write mean things about people on the internet just because they can. Keep doing what you're doing, and let the haters hate!

Catherine said...

I think you're incredible for taking the hard things you've been through/done and learning from them. You keep going, girl! I love that your blog is to rejoice in the joy of your marriage--I think that's something those of us with good marriages should always do, so that we don't take it for granted! thanks for the example!

Irene said...

Hi Sam. I must say that you continue to inspire me because of your blog. And while there are people who don't like what you do here, always remember that there are people who get inspired because of you and your lovely blog. Count me in! ;-)

Take care, Sam! And don't let the negativity get to you. :-)

Irene

Miriam Lusk said...

Boo for haters. Love u.

Alexis Kaye said...

man I'm sorry! I know you'll hear a million times not to care what people think. If you can do that, good for you! But I personally have a hard tim with that! I hope you're doing better than I would! I don't let myself look at site traffic because of that. I don't want to expose myself to it. Really, there's no point. It won't change what I write. Lately I've been getting the most awful anti mormon comments. I've never responded or aknowledged them. But it has gotten so out of hand that I set my comments to be approved before the show up on my site. I don't want my readers to see such disgusting things. It's sad that I have to monitor it now. Just know that there might be a handful of people who disagree with you or don't like your blog, but there are so many more who love it and who you are helping. that's so much more important :)

Gentri said...

You can see from your followers list and all the sweet comments you get that people LOVE you! The haters can hate, they're not important. Those who care about you (and there are a lot of us) are the important ones. :) It doesn't matter what people think. And I love the style posts!

christa morris said...

ah! girl, no worries! you are fabulous!

ellen said...

Just remember it's YOUR blog and you can blog if you want to. :)

Rae Veda said...

Wow. I can't believe people do such mean things. Do what you love and I love your silly outfit posts. They're the best. I also love reading about your marriage. It inspires me to know how to be in my own and how to keep things happy. xo, rv

http://aneclecticheap.blogspot.com/

CaseyWiegand said...

ps after u wrote this i checked my stats and realized they talked ab me too

Jilleun said...

Sam I hardly ever comment but do I read your blog and ALWAYS love it? YES! Sorry someone tried to tear down a beautiful blog, its obvious they have problems of there own. (I know its easier said than done, not to care). I hope you get lots of comments telling you that your blog is wonderful, because it is. And your marriage should be celebrated. Here's to having a better day!

Vivian said...

Good for you that you are NOT letting them affect you! You MUST know it's more the LOVE than the HATE coming your way. Have a wonderful weekend and you are BEAUTIFUL!

p.s: Sending my stuff on MOnday OK?!!

molly said...

I love taking five minutes to read your blog and will admit I first heard about your site from said particular website. At first glance, your day -to-day life could not be more different than mine BUT that's why I love reading your blog.

Thank you for being honest about your intentions in why you blog and your previous relationship ending. I've never left your site thinking life sucks; I always leave thinking a positive thought and in turn become a better daughter, girlfriend, sister, aunt, human being, etc.

Don't pay them any attention.

Jessica said...

Good for you, girl. Good for you.

Wegan said...

Omg really?? That's awful! Im sorry to hear that :( What site is it? Some crappy form that disses others happiness? Gah.

M x

Jenna said...

As someone who's had her blog ripped to shreds on some very unsavory sites that are antagonistic to our faith, I totally know how you feel. Why do people feel the need to tear others down? It's not like we post things looking for criticism. No, I don't mind a healthy debate once in a while, but coming on my blog to tell me my beliefs are "disgusting" and "crass?" It's very hurtful. My faith is anything but that.

Sam, you deserve to be happy. And no one can tell you otherwise.

Loves.

The Dayleys said...

I absolutely adore your blog. I appreciate all that you share. You've been an inspiration to me. Thanks for being who you are and sharing it with the world!! Keep your chin up sweet lady.

Rachel said...

It sucks that ONE little negative comment can wash out the thousands of amazing ones. SAM,YOU are amazing and so many people love this blog! Don't let one little hater ruin this whole experience!! No matter how amazing one person is... No matter how great they are... There will always be ONE person that doesn't like them. Not everyone can be loved by everyone. It's just life. Think of all the amazing people in history... who were hated for the good things they did. Same thing. Don't let it get you down! We love you so much! You are strong! I LOVE YOU.

Megs said...

I hope you're not talking about the article I think you're talking about, because it broke MY heart when I read it and it's not even aimed at me.

I have a blog. It is way too serious and often pretentious. I'm working on that. But I don't expect anyone to read it and I need to get things out sometimes, so I don't care. But YOUR blog is my happy place. And I've never once thought that you were being insincere or trying to create an idea of your life that isn't true. When I read about how happy you are with your husband, I look at my husband and smile because ME TOO. When you do style posts, and smile and wonder if I could be more creative with my own closet. So keep doing what you do. If possible, make it even MORE lovey dovey and occasionally goofy :)

Kylie said...

I haven't had any hate so far, but maybe that's because my blog isn't as popular as yours.

I know this world can be a cruel, ugly place. But I hope you know that your life, and your blog, bring a little bit of beauty and happiness to fight away the ugliness.

One of my favorite quotes is by Dr. Seuss: "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."

Hope you have a better day!

megan danielle said...

all i want to say is that i love your blog. and when i see that you have a new post, it makes me excited. so thanks for blogging, i really look up to you a lot.

Merrick said...

I'm super impressed with your attitude toward this. Keep it up! I know how hard it is to let things go easily (I have a hard time not taking things too personally), but you seem to be handling this really well.

You're awesome.

Caitlin said...

Aw man lady, I'm so sorry that people are so ridiculous. You're right, you shouldn't care what they think, but it doesn't mean that it's that easy to just "not care." You're a great person and you're better than all the anonymous BS out there in the internet world. <33

Anita said...

You're completely right...you didn't start this blog to please anyone but yourself and that is how it should be! If you are happy in your marriage you have every right to share that too! Don't let others bring you down and don't let it bother you that they choose to be petty and stooping. It's called jealousy.

Pam said...

I adore your blog. You are honest and fun and your posts always bring a smile to my face. The experiences you've had, the insights you share, and the love you have for your husband make your blog something special. Thanks for blogging, Sam.

Derek and Talia said...

Sam I just started reading your blog and love it. You are so inspiring and brave
I look up to you for sharing your opinions and not letting mean people bother you. Keep doing what your doing it makes me happy to read your blog
. Xoxo

The Crocketts said...

Hey, you don't know me. I'm "Bishop Palmer's" daughter and I stumbled upon your blog a few months ago. It's sad people can say such hurtful things. Just try to remember that anyone who puts time and energy into bashing people is so not worth worrying about. Keep blogging about what YOU want to blog about!

Morgan said...

I wrote a similar post recently. There are always going to be haters but as long as you're blogging for you and speaking your truth... That's all that matters!

Nicole Marie said...

i'm sorry. haters gonna hate. they got nothing better to do with their time apparently

Devin & Katie said...

all i have to say that i think sums this up pretty nicely (and will be appreciated by you and chas) is:

haters gone hate.

we've all been there. i know i have. it's a stinker for sure.

wildchild said...

i'm glad you blog, lady. just do your thing. there are tons of people here who love it :)

Megan said...

As someone who has gone through a divorce and was lucky enough to find love again, I can say from the bottom of my heart it was because of YOUR blog that i felt i could allow myself to move on, it was because of YOU that i felt encouraged and supported enough to be open about what was happening in my life, and it is YOUR blog that keeps me hoping, and helps me realize that you can have a healthy happy marriage and that we all deserve that.

Jessica Holly said...

Ok, first of all...you are lovely. I love your blog and always have. Second, I think this world needs a little light and happiness. Focusing on the good things in life is what life is all about in my opinion. I don't think that means you're fake or trying to make people like you (things I've heard elsewhere) it means that you are an optimistic person who is fun to be around. That is what I think.

Emma Frances said...

Your blog is amazing and I love what it's all about. Thank you for sharing and I'm sorry you came across something so awful! I hope you don't have to deal with that again!

Shauna said...

people are dumb. Thats all there is to it. Its easy to hide behind your laptop in your home and bash people...its a bully thing. Its mean. Dont let it bug you, easier said than done.

But all of us bloggers get it, i think. I have, so i feel ya girl! Keep doing you!

Saskia said...

Good for you!

Cindy said...

I'm sorry this even came up because I can honestly see the joy and appreciation you have from being in your marriage to Chas. You've gone through so many things that have taught you so much. In a way, we're never going to be able to fully describe our lives and experiences and people will always misunderstand what we mean.

I know you are strong enough to forget those other comments made about you that were negative, but I just want you to remember that you do have readers who see this brightness in you. A real brightness because you try every single day to make living this life worth it. You aren't fake or super duper happy 24/7. You're a real person who wants to be live for herself and her family and you do that by being a good person and living your life and blogging about it. If people can't see that then they don't deserve your attention at all.

beady said...

I can not understand why some people waste so much time and energy on being rude to others and trying to tear them down. Anyways, for one hater you have a literal thousand other people that love your blog and embrace and enjoy the silliness.

J.Lynn said...

You include those Young People Style posts because YOU enjoy doing them and sharing them with others. It doesn't make you weird to have an interest in fashion and taking fun photos. You look like you're having fun and you look happy and it's artsy, which is an ASSET. There is nothing wrong with that. And no, it does NOT matter what other people think.

I might talk about myself and my life experiences on my own blog, but it's mainly for myself; it's kind of like a journal, but one that I don't mind other people getting into.

If someone doesn't like it, they don't have to read it. If they want to talk badly about it, they're only hurting themselves and holding onto negative energy in their spirit.

Keep blogging doll and do it for yourself :)

_kArLy[*] said...

Hey love, My blog is similar to yours, except less cool..;) But, I was recently at mcdonalds the other day and received an anonymous blog comment. It said how they saw us at mcdonalds and realized that my life was not as perfect as we made it seem on the blog..ect.
It ruined my whole weekend, besides the fact that it was a little creepy, it really just made me think about my blog & myself and my husband. How can someone judge from 5 minutes?

People just don't know.

Marriage is hard.
but marriage is perfect.
not the perfect that means dishes are always done, the house is always clean, there's dinner on the table every night..it means that you care enough to correct arguments, support each other in things you could never do & understand perspectives.
Y
ou are awesome Sam, and I love your blog.
love, karly

Rad Rachel said...

You've got the right outlook on this one. People will always be mean, but it doesn't mean we're mean back or let them drag us down with them. Yep, this is ridiculously easier said than done. But you got this. You go girl!

Eliza said...

I'm sorry you had to experience that! But know that your silliness and appreciation for the life and love that you have make your blog a treasure to the rest of us, so ignore those other guys :) xoxo eliza

Kimberly said...

I am new to your blog, but I am smitten! I'm sorry you're having to deal with negativity and nastiness - some people have nothing better to do.

I, for one, am so inspired by you! You are so kind and loving. While dealing with some of my own problems, I have found hope and inspiration in your words. Your blog is a little slice of happiness and sunshine. I hope you don't let those negative nellies get to you.

Kelsey Cole said...

You go girl! I adore you and your blog:) If anyone has anything negative to say, I feel bad for them, because they obviously are very miserable people.

I love your beautiful outlook on love and life, and will continue to be a loyal reader!:)

xoxo

Young People in Love said...

I CANNOT TELL YOU ALL HOW MUCH THESE COMMENTS MEANT TO ME TODAY. (So I'm hoping the all-caps help to convey some of the importance a little more.)

Seriously, though. Thank you so, so much for your love, kind words, reassurance, and support.

It's bizarre to me how people can harbor so much hate towards someone they don't even know. So very, very strange.

But YOU, my friends, are alllll right! Haters gonna hate but let's not let it tear us down with them :)

Loves.
sam

Mrs. Biscuit said...

How upsetting and odd! I can't imagine how anyone wouldn't just LOVE your blog! You were one of the first people who found my blog and I remember being so flattered and happy! Your blog has been part of my life for almost as long as my blog has been part of my life. It's so wonderful to have this journal that I can look at and figure out what were were doing on any random date, or remember the adventures we went on.

Keep on blogging and I'll keep on reading!!! =)


<3 <3 <3 MuffinLovesBiscuit

Ashley Erin Belanger said...

for what it is worth... {music always helps me}
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jYa1eI1hpDE

Mal Mecham said...

You must know that just this afternoon I was telling my madre (who doesn't yet blog) how much I loved your blog and was showing her your amazing artwork on Etsy (hinting at Christmas presents). Thank you for being the amazing wonderful and fantastic inspiration that you are. You remind me on a regular basis that even though terrible things happen now and then, there is ALWAYS something to smile about. :)

Jesseca said...

You're awesome. I've heard it said that you get the hardest trials when you're doing something right. I think you should celebrate with a cheeseburger.

Nekel said...

I just wanted to let you know that your blog is my favorite. I always save it for last like I always do my favorite things. I've only been reading Young People in Love for a few months, but I immediately fell in love with your guys' personalities. The way you write makes me feel like you're a best friend and I can't help but care about you. You cannot imagine with what anticipation I look forward to the post announcing that a little cryings is coming into the world, I literally hope for it every time I type in the address. I'm in high school with my whole life ahead of me, and I would be lying if I said that I had never dreamed of having a marriage like yours: eternal and swingin' it the whole way there. Thank you for being such a great example, especially for showing that modesty can be adorable and standards only make your life better. I admire you and your courage in posting your beautiful life for the world to see. I appreciate it. Thank you.

Elle Keeps Moving said...

ahhhh, i so hate that feeling even though you know, you know, you KNOW, you shouldn't care and that this person is just one dumb jerk who needs to get a life, but of course it still stings and you can't stop thinking about it. seriously, though, you keep doing what you're doing and don't even pay heed to anyone who questions or criticizes it because you are something incredible, sam, and your blog is a beautiful and true representation of everything fantastic about you. no joke. xoxxxxxxxx

Miss. C said...

I've only been reading your blog for a short while but can safely say it's one of my favourites. Unfortunately, my least favourite thing about the online world seems to have occurred. I really do not understand people's need to ridicule or put down others.

Thankyou for brightening my days with your blogs and hope you're having a lovely weekend! x

struck said...

That one negative comment won't change the fact that sooo many people love your blog. Including me, of course! Keep up the good work :)

Lindsey said...

I'm pretty new to your blog, but have instantly fallen in love with it. So much positivity and heartfelt writing is always what I'm looking for.

I'm sorry to hear about the negative commenting going on, but I think the way you reframed the situation into a miscommunication is perfect. Not everyone will understand us, but we write for those people who do and maybe one day those other people might broaden their perspective.

Sammie said...

It's a shame that people have nothing better to do than sit at a computer and criticize something that makes so many people so happy.
I read EVERY SINGLE ONE of your blog posts. I usually skip a few posts from other blogs i'm following, but I NEVER skip yours. Because yours make me so happy. You and Chas are so sweet, and funny, and talented. I love that you guys share those happy pieces of your life together with us.

The Presutti's said...

New follower! I love your blog!! I can't wait to get to know you! Don't listen to other people, because looking at your blog, you have a lot of people who love you!

Alycia (Crowley Party) said...

I know it can be hard when you read about other people bringing you down. Don't let it get you down! People are always looking to bring down others to make themselves feel better. Yes we all do some silly things on our blogs, but who cares?! That is the joy of blogging... it is OUR individual space and we can do whatever we want in it. Just remember to do what makes YOU happy and not worry about anyone else :) We all love your sweet adorable blog, and love the experiences you share about the things you have done in your life. Keep it up love.

shannon*bear said...

Sam, I'm sorry you had to go through this. Your blog truly is lovely and does exactly what you aim for it to do. Your writing and life experience bring life to your posts and your marriage and love for life brings the heart. Your blog touches lives - it inspires. That is the bottom line. Not the negativity that someone else has to say. Keep up what you're doing. Blog for YOU, blog for the reasons that YOU love. That is what it's all about. We'll keep loving it and coming back for more of it! Don't be discouraged. You have an entire blogging community of support! Thanks for such a graceful post on how you've decided to handle negativity. You're lovely.

xo Shannon

Angie said...

Good for you!!! I know it's not the easiest thing to do but you are right, ultimately you are blogging for YOU! Don't let anyone change that.

Emma said...

JEALOUS. they are just jealous. you and your hubs are the cutest and we all adore your blog.

Carlie Jean said...

I actually LOVE YOUR BLOG! although i never comment. Me and my Fiance..always love reading it together. And We just love seeing you and Chas's happiness. Helps us move over selves towards tying the knot. And haters...they always going to hate. So keep going and kick butt like yall always do!

Desarée said...

you keep on doing what you've been doing, Sam and Chas. I sent you guys an email a while back, but I just read your post from a little bit ago and I will resend it. It definitely addresses how your blog, while it is just about how crazy happy and awesome you guys are, has helped me. I appreciate it and I look forward to reading it a couple times a week.

Koren said...

I think you are inspirational.

I've had 3 blogs myself. One as a married mother of 2 who was in school. Then one through my heartbreaking and horrific divorce while being a single parent in my last year of school. And now a new blog with my husband who loves my children as his own and we are starting a happier life together.

Being silly is what we all should do from time to time. And being in love is something that should be celebrated! Someone who may misunderstand you just obviously doesn't see the beauty you are sharing.

talesoflifeloveandicecream said...

I'm sorry to hear that you had to deal with some mean-spirited comments. I think there will always be people out there who feel like they have to bring other people down in order to build themselves up. And that's sad, but true. But look at all of the people you have reached with your blog, who may get inspiration from what you write. Just hold onto that and ignore the rest. And as for your couple style posts, I love them! So many girls do style posts on their blogs but you and Chas are the first ones I've seen that do it as a couple and corny or not, I think they're fun!

Jenna said...

I am so sorry to hear this Sam! I absolutely love your blog, and I know I am one of many people who receive inspiration, happiness, laughs, and much more from reading your posts. You're amazing!! <3

jessica {creative index} said...

try not to let it bother you...

i'm new to your blog, and i love it!! looking forward to following along... :)

just enough foolishness said...

"...happiness in a marriage is something that I firmly believe should be honored and celebrated."

Amen, sister.

You took the highest of roads in this, and that demonstrates such grace, forgiveness and strength. I love you writing that "opinions don't have to affect me unless I chose to let them." You're an inspiration girly.

THE-LOUDMOUTH said...

Clearly, you have tons of friends and fans that love you and your blog. Don't let one hater (or two, or five, or whatever!) get you down. :)

L!$@ said...

Dear Sam,
People suck sometimes. But light is much stronger than the dark. Keep writing, we obviously read it :D
From Lisa :D

Absolute Novice said...

Been reading your blog for awhile now, and I love it. Keep it up :) And don't let the negative people overshadow your positive outlook! xx

Heather said...

I feel so sorry for people who can't find joy in other`s happiness. Having a happy, joyful outlook on life is nothing to feel sorry for Sam. I love your blog and the lift it brings to me!

just ignore them, you have hundreds of people who love you and your blog just as it is.

Heather

Carrie said...

I personally love reading your blog, you are funny and insightful, and I love how much you and Chas love each other. I think it's adorable and it inspires me to love my boyfriend more freely, and to be goofy together. I wish more people were as silly and fun as you two are.
<3 Carrie

Shauntelle said...

At the end of the day, it's YOUR blog, so it doesn't really matter what others think. Keep your chin up, and try not to let the negativity get to you. (Personally, I've really enjoyed your blog the last few weeks I've known about it. Thanks for your inspiration!) :)

Lexie Loo, Little Lily, and Dylan Too! said...

Stay true to yourself! There are some hateful people in this world that just want to hurt others. You come across as a very fun, sincere, happy, loving person and it seems like you and Chas have a very healthy marriage. Don't let the negativity bring you down!

Unknown said...

I know I'm a little late on this, but I wanted to tell you guys how much you really mean to me. I'm a relatively new reader, but as a young person in love, I find your words and advice on marriage very helpful and inspiring.

I am getting married next year, but Eli and I have been engaged for nearly 2 years now, and we face challenges in our relationship all the time like any other couple that's been married for 10+ years. And sometimes I get frustrated with him and don't know what to do. And you know what helps then? Reading about you guys! Reading about the work your put in to be happy together and the joy with which you celebrate your love every day. It really means so much to me.
So for what it's worth, I am incredibly thankful for you being there. I am very grateful for your blog, and your kind willingness to share your life with us.

Love,
Lexie

PS. And a side note the the commenter above me - I'm so excited that you spell your name L-E-X-I-E! Everyone always leaves off the "E" and it drives me nuts! No one spells Lexie like that :)

Rebecca Chase said...

People suck; don't worry about them. Although I am sorry that they are so bad; I probably would have cried! I check your blog everyday; and I only read three. Keep your head up; you are doing great and I love it!

Erin said...

You know people who leave rude comments on blogs obviously have to READ the blog to comment on it. And most of those rude commenters are regular readers/commenters. So that must say SOMETHING about your blog. Even if it's "silly" to some people, apparently it's also entertaining. ;) Keep up the awesome work.

Annie said...

Obviously I am totally late on commenting but I read it when you posted and still wanted to say a little something when I had a moment!

I LOVE that you post about how happy you and Chas are. I know it's true too. You can't make up stuff like that! and because I see similarities in the way I feel about my husband and the silly things we do together. Even our closest friends laugh and say we are so weird the way we act when we are together, and even sometimes we tell each other that the other is SO weird! but weird works for us. and we love it. and I love that you love Chas and that he loves you and that you KNOW that what you have is love and that it is something to be grateful for.
So glad you were level-headed enough to sit back and see that the person who said mean things about you doesn't matter. Like you said, you didn't write this blog for them. You are doing it for you, and it makes you happy, which is what counts. I hope you never stop doing what makes you happy, even if that changes over time. Even if eventually writing a blog doesn't make you happy like it used to and instead you knit or modgepodge everything in your house or make homemade popsicles and give them away all summer every summer. Whatever it is. Do it. and Be happy! Life is to be enjoyed not endured. And you are beautiful and important and deserve every happiness in the world. :)

Annie said...

P.S.
2 things:
1) I love the RWE quote you have on your comment form. I love RWE.
2) This post, ironically was posted a day apart from this post (http://alexislaughs.blogspot.com/2011/09/thats-what-i-think.html)on my friend Alexis' blog. Kind of crazy that she received some not so happy blog attention as well. And see you're not alone!

mathistown said...

So I'm kind of the worst at commenting on blogs I love sometimes cause I always read them on my phone where commenting is hard, BUT I wanted you to know I keep thinking about how gracefully you handled a bummer of a situatuon that probably makes your insides churn to thunk about (mine would). I really loved that you were positive and proactive instead if critical. Thanks for being true to yourself and may no more bad find it's way to you!

c.e.l.i.n.a said...

I am a day late, but I love your blog!

♥ theMRS.

Katie said...

totally late jumping on this bandwagon! as J always tells me 'haters gonna hate.' {super philosophical husband I have, don't be jealous!} But life is so much more than that, and you're so much better than that! I love your blog and am so glad you decided not to delete :)

Amber Maheu said...

I love your vulnerability! Your blog is adorable. I'm your newest follower :) Keep it up!

Bekah said...

Gosh Sam, you are just so awesome!!!! Don't even pay attention to any hate, from anyone! I think you are an inspiring person!!! Keep learning from life, keep being you, and most importantly, keep being happy!!!!!

anna said...

i think you're amazing and i like your blog because of how genuine i feel like you are. that's one of the reasons i follow/sponsor.
bottom line is, haters are going to hate. they always will. but by writing posts like this you prove that its okay for them to hate as long as you love yourself.

okay. enough with the pep-talk. have a great weekend.

Rachael said...

This post is awesome.
Love everything you said :)

uza dortor said...



i am giving this testimony cos l am happy

My name is mrs. Deborah Collins from Houston,taxes.i never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once. when i went to Africa in December this year on a business summit. i ment a man called dr. Atakpo.He is powerful he could help you cast a spells to bring back my love’s gone,misbehaving lover looking for some one to love you, bring back lost money and magic money spell or spell for a good job.i’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 2 years… i really loved him, but his mother was against me and he had no good paying job. so when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him..at first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. and in 6 days when i returned to taxes, my boyfriend (is now my husband ) he called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married..i didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do… well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid,and my husband also got a new job and our lives became much better. in case anyone needs the spell caster for some help, email address atakpospelltemple@yahoo.com

Great Atakpo i thank you very much thank you in 1000000 times.. if not you i would have been losted and wasted thank you.

please make sure you contact him for any financial difficulties okay..

What a powerful man such as Dr Atakpo.. he is so much powerful..\\ email him for any difficulties.. atakpospelltemple@yahoo.com

deborah said...



deborah

i am giving this testimony cos l am happy My name is mrs. Deborah Collins from Houston,taxes.i never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once. when i went to Africa in April 28th this year on a business summit. i ment a man called dr. Atakpo.He is powerful he could help you cast a spells to bring back my love’s gone,misbehaving lover looking for some one to love you, bring back lost money and magic money spell or spell for a good job.i’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 2 years… i really loved him, but his mother was against me and he had no good paying job. so when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him..at first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. and in 6 days when i returned to taxes, my boyfriend (is now my husband ) he called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married..i didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do… well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid,and my husband also got a new job and our lives became much better. in case anyone needs the spell caster for some help, email address atakpotemble@yahoo.com Great Atakpo i thank you very much thank you in 1000000 times.. if not you i would have been losted and wasted thank you. please make sure you contact him for any financial difficulties okay.. What a powerful man such as Dr Atakpo.. he is so much powerful..\\ email him for any difficulties.. atakpotemble@yahoo.com


uza dortor said...

sarah
My Name is sarah.I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my boyfriend back and he means so much to me..The boy i want to get marry to left me 4 weeks to our wedding for another woman..,When i called him he never picked my calls,he deleted me on his facebook and he changed his facebook status from married to Single...when i went to his place of work he told his boss he never want to see me..I lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life...I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job...he told me he gonna help me...i don't believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my boyfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to Us the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he's busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that is wednesday...My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on wednesday and apologies for all he had done ..he said,he never knew what he was doing and his sudden behavior was not intentional and he promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my boyfriend called and he said i haven't seen anything yet... he said i will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its saturday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume working on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him to uzaallpowerfulspelltemple@gmail.com I cant give out his number cos he told me he don't want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay and he' will replied to any emails asap..hope he helped u out too..good luck:uzaallpowerfulspelltemple@gmail.com.Once Again His Email Address Is: uzaallpowerfulspelltemple@gmail.com

sylvia keith said...

i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 4 years to my husband and all of a sudden, another woman came into the picture.. he started hailing me and he was abusive..but i still loved him with all my heart and wanted him at all cost…then he filed for divorce..my whole life was turning apart and i didn't know what to do..he moved out of the house and abandoned the kids.. so someone told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell caster…so i decided to try it reluctantly..although i didn't believe in all those things… then when he did the special prayers and spell, after 2days, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn't believe it.. anyways we are back together now and we are happy..in case anyone needs this man, his email address olotospellhome@yahoo.com his spells is for a better life. again his email is olotospellhome@yahoo.com

John mills said...

Hello i am Melony from Sweden,I am out here to spreed this good news to the entire world on how i got my ex love back.I was going crazy when my love left me for another man,l in a couple of months ago,But when i meet a friend that introduce me to Dr IRABOR the great spell-caster,I narrated my problem to Dr IRABOR about how my ex love left me and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,In the next 2 days,My love called me on the phone and was apologizing for living me before now and also in the next one week after my love called me to plead for forgiveness,I was called for interview in my desired company were i apply for to work as a manager,I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact Dr IRABOR at the following email address and get all your problems solved..No problem is too big for him to solve.Email him on:iraborspelltemple@gmail.com,and all your problems will be solved and you will be glad at last.

kate brown said...

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maria hasbarger said...

My name is sarah dixon, am from Dublin. i want to use this opportunity to thank my great doctor who really made my life a pleasurable one today. This great man DR.OLUWAKEMI brought my husband back to me, i had 2 lovely kids for my husband, about 3 years ago i and my husband has been into one quarrel or the other until he finally left me for one lady. i felt my life was over and my kids thought they would never see their father again. i tried to be strong just for the kids but i could not control the pains that torments my heart, my heart was filled with sorrows and pains because i was really in love with my husband. Every day and night i think of him and always wish he would come back to me, until one day i met a good friend of mine that was also in a situation like me but her problem was her ex-boyfriend who she had an unwanted pregnancy for and he refused to take responsibility and dumped her. she told me that mine was a small case and that i shouldn't worry about it at all so i asked her what was the solution to my problems and she gave me this great man phone number and his email address. i was doubting if this man was the solution, so contacted this great man and he told me what to do and i deed them all, he told me to wait for just two day and that my husband will come crawling on his kneels just for forgiveness so i faithfully deed what this great man asked me to do and for sure after two days i heard a knock on the door, in a great surprise i saw him on his kneels and i was speechless, when he saw me, all he did was crying and asking me for forgiveness, from that day, all the pains and sorrows in my heart flew away,since then i and my husband and our lovely kids are happy.that's why i want to say a big thank you to oluwakemiprosperityspell@live.com This great man made me to understand that there no problem on earth that has no solution so please if you know that you have this same problem or any problem that is similar, i will advise you to come straight to this great man. you can email him at:oluwakemiprosperityspell@live.com or call him +2348103508204

albert Uwa said...

My lover is back with the great help from dr aluda., he help me cast a spell that brought my ex husband back to my arms in just 2 days after the spell was cast. my lover left me with out a formal notification and now my ex is back is back with dr aluda. spell, once again I want to thank dr aluda.for his wonderful spell he has cast for me to bring my lover back, am now a happy person with my lost lover.
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OGUDUGU SPELL CASTER said...

My name is Gary. I do not know how to thank GREAT OGUDUGU for bringing happiness back to my family. I do really wanna tell the whole world that there is a spell caster called Dr. OGUDUGU that is so real and genuine. I never believed in any of these things but when i lose my wife for 4 years, i required help until i found a great spell caster,and he assured me that i will get my wife back in just 48hours but i was in doubt, and after the spell has been cast, 48hours later, just as the spell caster said, my phone rang, and surprisingly it was my wife who has not called me for the past 4 years, and she made an apology for the pain she has caused me and she told me that she is ready to come back home for me. Dr. OGUDUGU really made her know how much i loved and needed her. And he also opened her eyes to picture how much love we have to share together. I will keep sharing this testimony all over the world. All thanks goes to Dr. OGUDUGU for the good work that he has done for me. Contact him now because he is very powerful and he will always help you. Believe him and do all he ask you to do and never doubt him in any way. GREATOGUDUGU@GMAIL.COM

Jasmine Jennifer said...

I am Jasmine Jennifer i have used every single spell worker on the internet, spent untold amounts of money and discovered they are all fakes...i was the fool though; doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. In the end, I decided that I wanted a tarot reading to know what my future held for me; I contacted a woman who lives locally to me and she told me about a man named (dr odalo); he does not advertise on the internet, has another job for income, has no set prices, makes no false promises and refuses to help anyone that cannot be helped and even helps for free sometimes, he will give you proof before taking money. He is a wonderful man and he was the only person who actually gave me real results. I really hope he doesn't mind me advertising his contact on the internet but I'm sure any help/ extra work will benefit him.whatsapp or call him on+2348063930531 or odalospelltemple@gmail.com He travel sometimes.he is also specialise on ,love marriage,finance, job promotion ,lottery spell, ,Law & Court case Spells,money voodoo,weigh loss voodoo,any sicknesses voodoo,Trouble in marriage,HIV AIDS,it's all he does Hope this helps everyone that is in a desperate situation as I once was; I know how it feels to hold onto something and never have a chance to move on because of the false promises and then to feel trapped in wanting something

Jasmine Jennifer said...

I am Jasmine Jennifer i have used every single spell worker on the internet, spent untold amounts of money and discovered they are all fakes...i was the fool though; doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. In the end, I decided that I wanted a tarot reading to know what my future held for me; I contacted a woman who lives locally to me and she told me about a man named (dr odalo); he does not advertise on the internet, has another job for income, has no set prices, makes no false promises and refuses to help anyone that cannot be helped and even helps for free sometimes, he will give you proof before taking money. He is a wonderful man and he was the only person who actually gave me real results. I really hope he doesn't mind me advertising his contact on the internet but I'm sure any help/ extra work will benefit him.whatsapp or call him on+2348063930531 or odalospelltemple@gmail.com He travel sometimes.he is also specialise on ,love marriage,finance, job promotion ,lottery spell, ,Law & Court case Spells,money voodoo,weigh loss voodoo,any sicknesses voodoo,Trouble in marriage,HIV AIDS,it's all he does Hope this helps everyone that is in a desperate situation as I once was; I know how it feels to hold onto something and never have a chance to move on because of the false promises and then to feel trapped in wanting something

albert Uwa said...

Hi everyone, am Vanessa Jacobs, am from south hill, ohio, u.s.a. Have you just experience the wonders of Dr aluda that have been spread on the internet and worldwide on how he marvelously helped people all over world to restored back their marriage and get back lost lovers, and also helping people get job and money spell. It was one beautiful day, when i contacted him after going through his testimonies from different countries. I told him about how my husband abandoned me
about 8 months ago, and left home with all i had. Dr aluda only told me to be happy, and have a rest of mind, that he will handle all in just 48 hours. He requested for my picture and that of my ex husband, and also told me to get some items which i
did send all he need to him. After the second day,
Stevens called me, i was just so shocked, i answered the call, and couldn't believe my ears, he was really pleading and begging me to forgive him
and making promises on phone. He came home and i let him in and also took me to his bank and change all his details to mine and also got me a new car just for him to proof his love for me. I was so happy and called Dr aluda and thanked him very much for his powerful spell. He only told me to share the good
news all over the world and i did. If you need a
genuine, powerful and real spell caster to help you
in any problems that you are undergoing in your life you. Just contact this great man today via his private
email:aludaspelltemple@gmail.com or call and whatsapp him on +2348063930531

albert Uwa said...

Me and my ex-husband at all times have always tried to stay friendly over again after our divorce which occurred in early Jaunary this year. So i met with this spell caster called Dr aluda on the internet after a long search. And he told me everything that i needed to do, and he also assured me that he is going to reunite us in just 48 hours later after his spell casting. So he started his work on Monday 27th January . You are not going to believe this. He is back!!! Yes, he really came back in 48 hours just as you guaranteed Sir. Now I'm fully persuaded that you are a legit and authentic spell caster and your website is the best i have ever come across. This is so mind-boggling for me. Anthony is back!!! I haven't by any means experienced something like this before. Thank you so much Dr aluda. I never expected such a result. Dream come true. Wow! You were so kind with me. “And may your kindness float back to you like ripples that float back to sea shore”. Thank you Sir for your precious help. I have never been so happy in my life like the way i am today. You are a genuine spirit.You and your work will never be forgotten for making me a fulfilled woman and reuniting me and my ex husband once again.. You are my hero.. The kids are overjoyed to have their father come back home for good. Sir here i am sharing your testimony just as i promised. here is his email address: aludaspelltemple@gmail.com or call and whasapp him on +2348063930531
Jamila Anthony
From USA

albert Uwa said...

there is this great spell caster in the states i just met through a friends description, and he have just helped me to get back my husband who left me for 2 years, I am so glad that i met with this spell caster, he is just in the US to help people and i am among those he have helped and i am telling you to also go and get hold of your own solution as he shall soon be living the the States, he said he was in the STATES to help his client. So i met with him and told him about how my husband left me.
I visited his email address, after a friend talked about how she got help from him. After contacting him, then I found out he is currently in the US.
It is even because his spell is so strong that is why someone invited him over, And through this medium he has brought home my husband with this spell powers. I contacted him, not up to 2 days, he told me that after 24 hours my husband would return back to me, and that day I was at work when my husband (Collins Mark toddle) called and said he is in the house,and i was so surprise when i really saw him and he just ask me to forgive him so that was how Dr aluda helped me to get my husband back to me so his email address is aludaspelltemple@gmail.com or call and whatsapp him on +2348063930531 if you still want him to help you solve your problems for you
I am Benson Toddle.

albert Uwa said...

there is this great spell caster in the states i just met through a friends description, and he have just helped me to get back my husband who left me for 2 years, I am so glad that i met with this spell caster, he is just in the US to help people and i am among those he have helped and i am telling you to also go and get hold of your own solution as he shall soon be living the the States, he said he was in the STATES to help his client. So i met with him and told him about how my husband left me.
I visited his email address, after a friend talked about how she got help from him. After contacting him, then I found out he is currently in the US.
It is even because his spell is so strong that is why someone invited him over, And through this medium he has brought home my husband with this spell powers. I contacted him, not up to 2 days, he told me that after 24 hours my husband would return back to me, and that day I was at work when my husband (Collins Mark toddle) called and said he is in the house,and i was so surprise when i really saw him and he just ask me to forgive him so that was how Dr aluda helped me to get my husband back to me so his email address is aludaspelltemple@gmail.com or call and whatsapp him on +2348063930531 if you still want him to help you solve your problems for you
I am Benson Toddle.